tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5072387995016064865.post5787214609254177315..comments2022-11-16T08:37:46.620-06:00Comments on Glam-O-Mommy: Hi. My Name is Glam-O-Mommy and I'm Infertile.Glam-O-Mommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17270241700019080204noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5072387995016064865.post-3795538970889653232010-06-29T22:18:03.804-05:002010-06-29T22:18:03.804-05:00Kristen, I did not realize you had faced infertili...Kristen, I did not realize you had faced infertility too. Your situation sounds so heart-breaking, and I'm so happy for you that things have worked out and you have three beautiful children!<br /><br />I completely understand what you mean about trying to figure out why everyone else could have children and you couldn't...this is what I meant by "dark nights of the soul" when I commented on your blog. Every month, every day, every week, I prayed to God to help me understand why I wasn't getting pregnant when all around me were. And then, when we had several high-profile cases in SA of mothers murdering their children...well, that is when I stopped talking to God, because I just couldn't understand how He would let those women be mothers, only to kill their children, and not let me, a seemingly good person, be one. I just gave up on Him and stopped talking to him.<br /><br />Then, a few months later when I got pregnant, I was so grateful and I continue to be so grateful and blessed to be a mother, that I'm ashamed I didn't have more patience and faithfulness to Him at the time. I hope He understands and forgives me.Glam-O-Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17270241700019080204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5072387995016064865.post-16772043837901768352010-06-29T03:00:47.841-05:002010-06-29T03:00:47.841-05:00Sonya,
As you may have known from reading my blog,...Sonya,<br />As you may have known from reading my blog, we went through horrible infertility (caused by a malformation in my uterus) and several pregancy losses. I have heard everything you did and more. I was in fact ovulating but my body wasn't allowing implantation over 90% of the time and the other 10% I was losing babies, so I know the pain of feeling like a failure. As you also probably know, once my issue was surgically corrected, I had and have trouble not getting pregnant. Very feast or famine with me. <br /><br />I too was rankled by the Catherine Bell interview. I think she should have been more up front.<br /><br />Ironically, my older son's godmother was also not ovulating. I say ironically because she did not want to get married to her current husband if he could not have children (they had this discussion early on) he went and got a check-up and was fine. After they were married and she stopped any kind of birth control, she actually did stop having a period. When she went to the doctor and they confirmed this, she went on Clomid. Luckily she was pregnant quickly (she is a very impatient person, so as bad as infertility is, it's worse when you are impatient the way she is) and is due with her son in September. <br /><br />While it is rough to know your body is betraying you the way you and I found out, I think unexplained infertility is much worse. Because there is no "cause" it's almost impossible to treat. <br /><br />And for me, the absolute worst part of the infertility process was trying to figure out how all my friends and family were having children and I couldn't. I kept trying to figure out what I had done wrong. <br /><br />I didn't mean for this to turn into an essay but I really appreciate you posting on this. It is painful for so many women to talk about, so telling our stories is important.<br />KristenKristen @ St Monica's Bridgehttp://stmonicasbridge.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5072387995016064865.post-45172913158410005782010-06-25T09:44:16.795-05:002010-06-25T09:44:16.795-05:00Danielle, thank you so much for your comment and y...Danielle, thank you so much for your comment and your encouragement. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine how devastating it must be to lose a baby. I am keeping you and your friend who has survived cancer in my prayers.<br /><br />Heather, your comment really means a lot to me. Thank you for taking a moment to share it. When I started the blog, I just wanted a place to write about my life as a mom, and I found I can't really do that without sharing the experience I went through to become a mom, because it is very close to the surface of things, always.<br /><br />I feel very blessed by both of your comments. You've made my day. Thanks so much for reading!Glam-O-Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17270241700019080204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5072387995016064865.post-28438659515696876272010-06-25T05:59:15.427-05:002010-06-25T05:59:15.427-05:00I think your writing and your authenticity is insp...I think your writing and your authenticity is inspiring. I do not know about infertility, but I have plenty of friends who do. For them it is heartbreaking, and like you, they struggle not to be defined by it. Many of the words in the this post are similar to the ones they speak. I admire your courage to write about your journey. I am confident other women will find comfort and a place that feels like home in your writing.<br />Thank you,<br />HeatherMy Mama Mojohttp://www.mymamamojo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5072387995016064865.post-64724562194550493502010-06-25T00:31:27.767-05:002010-06-25T00:31:27.767-05:00I somehow found you while surfing. Your story touc...I somehow found you while surfing. Your story touches my heart in many ways. Though I am not infertile I walk a similar journey. I have four children but three are not with me. Losing them in pregnancy, each one in a different stage. The last one , Lydia, two weeks before she was due. I can relate to the feelings of shame, I do try to blast that feeling though whenever it peeps its head up.Its not my fault, I am not a failure, my journey will not be in vain. I have a friend who is walking in a journey more closely related to yours. After years of not being able to conceive she is found to have cancer. She has survived it but the doctors say she can't try even try to conceive for another two years.<br /><br />I say all this not to discourage you but to encourage you that there are others walking similar journeys , who can relate and even give hope! You will be in my thoughts and prayers as you walk this out.Danielle Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08135931140914873175noreply@blogger.com